Embrace curiosity, learn to communicate, and release resentment with work that honors your connection and your complexity.
Create a relationship that is more honest, attuned, and alive.
As an active, attuned presence in the room, I offer continuity and containment in a stable, protected space. I am unafraid to redirect, confront, or mediate in service of balance and emotional safety.
This is the work of relationship alchemy: turning reactivity into reflection, rupture into repair, and blame into accountability for a connection that lasts.
Clarify who you are, who your partner is, and what you are fighting for. Through a psychodynamic and somatic lens, we approach the relationship itself as a living presence.
Beyond right and wrong, there is a field for repair. This is where we begin.
A crisis in one’s primary relationship can feel like an identity crisis, opening up the question of the distinction between self and other on the most intimate level.
Effective couples therapy can help you find home in one another’s hearts and safety in togetherness.
The moment when the construct of an intimate partnership, the emotional home you built together, threatens to fall away can be devastating. It is also a unique opportunity to rebuild both your relationship with yourself and one another. Relationship crisis is one of only a handful of catalysts that has the power to motivate lasting change.
A licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I am here to help you move through chaotic times and find stability in the midst of crisis.
That said, some of the most effective treatments for couples happen long before problems arise, so if you are seeking relationship counseling as a couple in anticipation of a life transition or just to know one another better, you will be gifting yourselves the opportunity to create an even more stable foundation—shoring up the coastline for life’s eventual storm.
I use a heart-centered approach to help couples open to vulnerability and engage from a place of radical honesty in order to repair trust and rekindle intimacy.
We start by practicing simple and effective communication skills that foster:
I am here to encourage and support the best in both of you as individuals and as a couple, whether your goal is to stay together or amicably separate.
My goal is to help you feel safe enough to be vulnerable and share the things you have been too afraid to say out of fear that you will no longer be loved.
As a couples therapist, I do my best to act as an objective moderator and am honored to be a non-partial witness to this very intimate process.
If you are wondering if you need couples counseling, the thought of allowing a stranger into the intimate chambers of your closest relationship is probably accompanied by a particular mix of curiosity, hope and dread.
You love each other but you both feel misunderstood. Every time you try to communicate you manage to trigger your partner’s deepest sensitivities.
Is there someone who can help you:
Perhaps you have been together for a long time but the emotional distance is making you wonder if you are really happy or just getting by. Maybe it’s been years since you shared physical intimacy. Can couples therapy bring you close enough to reignite the passion you once shared?
Whether you are experiencing explosive arguments or a tense stillness, if you are considering couples counseling, you haven’t given up yet.
Yes, couples therapy works. It works most effectively for people who are open to:
Finding a safe space in which you can allow yourself to be vulnerable with your partner about the truth of your needs and desires is critical to opening the door to mutual understanding, intimacy, and connection.
Finding ways to hold one another’s pain with compassion and speak to one another from a place of curiosity goes a long way towards healing.
Couples therapy (and relationship counseling in general) is not effective unless all parties are equally willing, motivated and invested in the process.
If your partner is resistant to therapy but you feel you would benefit from a non-partial witness to reflect your experience and help you sort through your feelings about the relationship, I can help you come to clarity about your path forward in individual psychotherapy.
Couples therapy can be disruptive in so far as it tends to bring to the surface sensitive issues that need expression in order to be resolved. If there is any physical violence in your relationship, please seek individual therapy instead.
For clients recovering from intimate partner violence, I offer confidential trauma therapy in the Bay Area to help you release shame, regain your sense of self, and assert your personal agency.
While unique and deeply personal, the relationship dynamics involved in intimate partnerships are not exclusive to any one combination of gender identity, sexual expression or relationship style.
Heterosexual or queer, monogamous or open, you can feel safe with me to speak openly about:
The challenges and rewards of love and human connection transcend social norms and categories. Where there is love, there is value and the potential for healing.
As a couples therapist, I am more interested in how you love than who you love; the ways your relationship helps you grow rather than the terms that define it.
I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Tiburon, CA with an office in close proximity to San Francisco, Mill Valley and Sausalito. Meet me for:
Begin your journey with intention.
Explore how couples therapy can support conscious relating — whether you’re working to reconnect or part ways with care.