The idea that women are the keepers of sex is the distortion that sets the stage for a culture of misogyny and infidelity.
The belief that women “have” sex and can give or withhold it from men who want to “take” it casts sex as a commodity, women as gatekeepers, and men as pursuers.
In this narrative:
This unconscious paradigm — where sex must be earned, extracted, or withheld — breeds entitlement, resentment, shame, insecurity, and self-abandonment.
But what if sex isn’t a resource to negotiate or hoard?
What if it’s a divine co-creation — Not something women give and men take, but something we call in together in moments of reverence and awe for the divine masculine and feminine within us all?
Infidelity isn’t just personal betrayal — It’s a fundamental misunderstanding about the origin of exquisite, divine, mind-blowing sex.
And misogyny isn’t just cultural bias — It’s a symptom of disconnection from the divine feminine — not as gender, but as spirit: relational, sacred, powerful.
The radical paradigm shift?
Sex as a sacred gift that arises when the space of desire is reverent, attuned, and aligned. This opens a portal to an entirely different cosmology of love.
We are no longer hunters or takers, but initiates.
Desire becomes not shameful or transactional, but devotional.
Sex becomes not performance, but prayer —
A sacred convergence, not a currency.
A moment where the veil lifts — and something transcendent is revealed.
Then, the entire relational field transforms.
Infidelity is not a breach of rules, but a desecration of the temple.
And connection — true erotic connection — becomes a spiritual threshold, not a social contract.
What you explicitly desire, what you secretly desire, and what still remains outside of your conscious awareness are powerful motivators steering the course of your life.
Exiling your sexual desire as a forbidden subject that you engage with in a fragmented manner can destroy your intimate relationships and limit your potential for creativity.
The repression and denial of your basic instincts will make you sick.
Still, sex can be one of the most difficult areas to discuss openly for fear of judgment or rejection by those who matter most to you. In the realm of sexuality, it is critical to have a non-partial, non-judgmental listener who can hold the most intimate aspects of your being with empathy and kindness.
As a trauma informed sex therapist, I approach sex from a place of openness and curiosity with the goal of expanding your erotic intelligence and integrating all aspects of your identity so you can freely express yourself in alignment with the multifaceted, dynamic individual you truly are.
Moving desires, wounds, and truths from secrecy into authentic expression.
This is a space to navigate the shadows of sexuality with depth and honesty.
Eros, in a simple act of sexual pleasure, the vitality and aliveness of nature, or the embodied experience of divine bliss, is a fundamental way that, as humans, we relate to one another, embody our animalistic nature and transcend it.
Exploring what motivates your desire for sex and the fears that get in the way of a joyful, embodied connection can lead to the revelation of underlying issues that need to be carefully addressed in order to find the freedom and release that belongs to lasting sexual pleasure.
When sex is misused as:
there is risk of deep loneliness, avoidance of one’s internal world, an outsourcing of agency, and the potential for further harm to self or others.
For individuals who have suffered from sexual abuse, rape and intimate partner violence, the idea of physical intimacy can be terrifying. Exploring your erotic intelligence by getting to know your own body may feel treacherous.
Resolving a history of abuse with a trauma informed sex therapist who can help you develop somatic awareness and emotional insight clears the path for creating a renewed sense of safety that will enable your body and heart to eventually open again.
In the context of unconditional positive regard, I will help you explore:
We will explore how your sexual experiences have shaped your relationship to your body, emotional intimacy, arousal, attachment, identity and spiritual transcendence.
I recognize the value of all forms of relating and sexual connectedness that honor honesty, safety, and enthusiastic consent. I believe that a positive approach to sex emphasizes mutual respect and pleasure, regardless of gender identity and sexual orientation.
I welcome queer and heterosexual clients alike. Whether you are lesbian, gay, bi or trans will make no difference in the quality of attention you can expect to receive in my care.
The risk of disclosure hangs in the balance between being seen — and not being seen at all.
Begin your journey into embodied intimacy and sacred sexuality.
